NUTS.! That's what it's like.! Especially if you have no clue that's what is wrong with you. I wish I could go back and talk with some of my long term ex boyfriends or flings to get their perspective on what it was like putting up with me. I've heard people say so many times that I'm crazy. They're right, it probably seemed that way.
I'm writing this because there are so many of you out there that have no clue that you're not crazy. You're just empathic :) I know I'm not making this sound at all like the blessing I post about all the time am I.?
First I should tell you what it is. An Empath is a person that picks up and takes in personally every energy around them. You can feel what other people feel. That doesn't mean you could put yourself in the shoes of others but you can get a glimpse. The problem with that is, is that before we're told most of us feel insane. I was the moodiest, roller coaster of emotions I myself had ever come into contact with. You pick up energy everywhere and it leaves you super drained or even physically sick.
I know throughout my life I would go to school, be fine, really happy, havin' a great day and then a friend would come along. Now, I'm listening to how this girl ticked her off and told people she said something she never did and her boyfriend thinks she's a liar all because this girl opened her mouth. By time the story is done I'm so livid I wanted to take that girl out myself. How dare she say something to someone about someone else that has nothing to do with me.!!? Let's get her.!
Sounds ridiculous right.?? But that's what is was like, with everything. And I'm not sure if there's some universal written rule that empaths are counselor's but that seems to be the case. Anyone with any problem wants to load it on you. Why.? Because there's an energy exchange and this is where it gets good..
If you are like me, you're reading this and you are already shaking your head like a church bell thinking "yep, that's right.!" But it gets way better. Remember me talking about waking up in a good mood, ready to take on the world until the friend makes me want to put on my boxing gloves.? That's the energy exchange. These people are called energy vampires. Come to recognize them and guard yourself.
Imagine little tubes coming from people, those are called cords. We all form them to people we come into contact with. When you are an empath, full of this great, amazing, happy energy without a care in the world, someone is going to come and suck it out of you. That's super harsh I know but seriously these vamps don't even know they're doing it because neither do we. We just stand there listening to all their problems while they hook their vampy little cords to us and suck us dry of our energy like we're a gas pump.
When they're done they leave with a smile saying, "thanks, I feel a lot better now.!" And we are standing there like zombies thinking good lord I feel like crap. The day goes on, we meet a few more of these people and by two o'clock we have migraines, feel nauseous and just want to crawl under a desk to fall asleep. You say things like "Uhg, I'm so drained." Yes you're drained.! You've just been sucked dry of all your energy. No amount of coffee or Mt. Dew is going to replace that.
You have to ground yourself to protect and get rid of the stuff that doesn't belong to you. I don't care what you believe in but Google how to ground yourself. Once you find something that works for you make sure it's being done . I ground every day, sometimes twenty times. It really just depends on where my energy is at.
I also use crystals for protection. I carry tourmaline, citrine and hematite in my pockets. Those all either push negative away or suck it in. I sage my home all the time, especially after company. Once you know what to work with there are ways to be a good listener and not take on the issue like they are yours.
Once again, this is personally speaking. I think we surround ourselves with vamps because part of us is happy to help. We look at the energy drop or mood swings as being really tired for no reason. The anxiety as a health problem and the craziness like something to be medicated. Meds may work for some but not me. I enjoy knowing I'm in control of my ship.
I control how much I think and feel now because I'm aware of my empathic self. I love it.! Being an empathic Psychic Medium helps spirit to communicate their feelings or their loved ones feelings. I can better see your life for what it is because of this gift. That's just me, you may have a different purpose to use yours. But figuring out that's what it is, is the first step to being the happy you, you deserve.
Besides that surround yourself with people that understand your gifts. Adam was always pointing out energy shifts in me at first. He would look at me like I had two heads and say, "have you grounded yet.?" Then he would step back waiting to see if I was going to bite his head off. That small observation and understanding has meant the world of difference in our relationship. So find someone that will at least make an effort to understand you and go from there.
I will still say the best words I've ever heard was Pats response email to me after I had my huge experience. She said "Crystal, you are not crazy, you're empathic." I cried for hours because I finally felt ok. Some day I might share the email I wrote her to show you were I was. I know there are many of you out there feeling the same thing. It's the universe saying, "you've got a gift, are you going to use it.?" I decided yes that day and it's been one of the best decisions of my life. So what are you going to do with yours.?
Love and Light,